Questioning Our OB/GYN

At 9 weeks, Michelle and I have a scheduled visit with our OB/GYN in downtown San Francisco. We had met with him previously and felt comfortable with him, though he was a new doctor for Michelle. We discussed Michelle's hemorrhage and he seemed to be very nonchalant about it. He told us that these things have a tendency to take care of themselves and that the body will either bleed it out or re-absorb it. We discussed our plans to travel over the next few months between San Francisco and New Orleans to see Michelle's family and he had no problem with it. He simply told Michelle to take it easy and try to not do too much. He put her on modified bed rest.

Over the Christmas holidays, Michelle decided to get a second opinion from her OB in New Orleans- the doctor who had delivered our first daughter, Corinne. Something instinctual told her to do so even though we had a scheduled appointment less than a week later. Her OB would later tell her that the subchorionic hemorrhage was one of the largest he had ever come across in his. He would consult with his colleagues. He put Michelle on restricted bed rest and told her that she should under NO circumstances travel on an airplane. This really upset us, considering our OB in San Francisco had been so nonchalant about the issue. We ultimately decided that it would be better for Michelle to remain in New Orleans with her family where she could be taken care of and watched over 24/7 as opposed to being left alone during the day in a new place. I would travel from San Francisco to New Orleans every 2 weeks to visit. It was hell being away from my family.